I'm not going to link to it

[james_davis_nicoll]

Because I think doing so could have the undesirable effect of facilitating hostile attention on a community I like but I will say Artcomm is making me consider adding "everything is worse with doctrinaire polyamorists" to my list of tags. oh, except it's too long to be a tag. Bother. And so is " if you were more evolved you'd agree with me."

Comments

[commodorified.livejournal.com]

This is just to say
That I have been poly
Since 1986
And still have
No clue what I am doing
Most of the time.

:-)

[redbird]

I have some clue of what I'm doing, but what I'm doing is specifically what works for me and a specific few other people. And what's generalizable is both very general, and hardly poly-specific: get involved with people you respect, treat them in ways that show that respect, and do your best to communicate with them about things that matter.

[pauldrye.livejournal.com]

My motto has become "I have a hard enough time running my own life, I'm not about to start running anyone else's".

[redbird]

Nicely put. I will offer specific people advice if they ask. (I'll offer more people advice on minor, factual things, like "what's a good train to take to Chinatown?")

[commodorified.livejournal.com]

Yeah, I'd pretty much totally agree with that. But it didn't scan as well. :-)

[heron61.livejournal.com]

Indeed. I've been in a triad (all living together) since 2004, and the only thing I know with great certaintly about poly, is that it takes more time and more communication than most people could possibly imagine.