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As seen on a wide variety of LJ accounts. I have to say there's a clear consensus on the idea of treating women's bodies as public commons and it's not heading in the direction of commutarian touching. Who could have predicted that outcome?
As seen on a wide variety of LJ accounts. I have to say there's a clear consensus on the idea of treating women's bodies as public commons and it's not heading in the direction of commutarian touching. Who could have predicted that outcome?
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Date: 2008-04-22 10:13 pm (UTC)Egads, if I'd known this growing up, I would have been a far more confident person. I always expect "no". *shrug*
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Date: 2008-04-22 10:35 pm (UTC)I'm describing a toxic system. Better would be one in which you aren't suffering insecurity and the other person isn't potentially acting from a position that's comparatively disempowered. I've said 'no' to someone and then gone on to have a great time with them, at that point and in future. Saying 'no' wasn't a value judgment about them as a person, certainly.
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Date: 2008-04-22 10:41 pm (UTC)I put forth that in a gathering like PenguiCon, there tends to be less typical societal programming in place, due to the type of person that generally attends. Wouldn't that context also make it less likely that the actions taking place there are driven by typical societal programming, such as reinforcing the male-dominating paradigm?
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Date: 2008-04-22 10:54 pm (UTC)This isn't really my experience. In my experience, there's more naivete and more good-will, but there's no less influence from the overwhelming social paradigm. There is, I will say, greater expression of alternative values, but that is not the same as being free from the underlying indoctrination. There's a real difference between being alternative and actively rejecting one's programming, at least to me. Part of it is because many people are never genuinely challenged on these points. I've been working on being a feminist since I was 12 (that would be about 26 years), with my partners as allies, and I am still falling over my conditioning. It's like fish not knowing water is wet. We can't help it, but we HAVE to if we're going to be good to each other.
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Date: 2008-04-23 07:09 pm (UTC)no subject
Date: 2008-04-25 12:46 am (UTC)Now imagine being a shy, geeky girl who's been just as rejected as those guys in that environment. Some of them don't want you to be there. You just want to be accepted among your peers, and then they want to touch you. Talk about conditioning!
(By the way, I do NOT think that is what went on in the original version of the project. My concerns are solely located in the call for the project to become a movement.)
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Date: 2008-04-23 01:16 am (UTC)How confident would a "yes" that had been pre-conditioned by fear of retribution for saying no make you?
Did the expected "no" ever stop you from asking? If so, good. Your lack of self confidence is a small price to pay to keep the women around you from having to say yes or no to being groped.