More Words, Deeper Hole

I couldn't think of the word for a male dominatrix. I don't see why someone shouldn't engage with someone else or elses of any flavor of gender. I've done BDSM, but in the context of a couple, never as part of a subculture. All I know about the broader context is what I've run into online or in books.

Do you think I'm a narrow-minded person who is squicked by BDSM? I'm not squicked by BDSM per se, in person or in what I read. I quite like Sarah Monette's Doctrine of Labyrinths series. I was upset by that particular scene in Wright's novel, a scene that reeked of male entitlement and leering enjoyment.