I did actually read the book and understood that point about the Radcha language. I was relating how I personally engaged with the story, because I found it interesting and difficult that the English-language-pronouns usage was apparently the thing that most strongly affected how I thought of the characters; other readers clearly find the physical descriptions most important.

I do not agree that my own reaction to the text is doing it wrong. My apologies if my own reaction to the text is unwelcome in a discussion of How The Book Must Be Read.